Prejudice
I know I've discussed this already but i've seen it happen once again. Im talking about prejudice. And more sprecific, prejudice about piercings, tatoos and music stiles.
If I start with piercings. I 6 piercings.
4 on that ear, one on the other ear, one in my nose and another one im not very keen to show.
A couple of days ago I overheard a conversation between some girls in my class and one of them wanted a piercing in her nose but her parents didn't allow her since they thought that piercings only was for criminals and that her teachers perhaps would consider her as a less good student due to this piercing. And for some reason things like that really makes me mad. Piercings aren't a reflection of your intelligence. "Don't judge the book by its cover" I've been told plenty of times by elder people but yet are completely comfortable doing the exact thing!! They are judging people by their tattos or piercings.
I can understand why elder people are so against piercings and tattos. When they were young only criminals had piercings and tattos, but we live in a different kind of world today. People are today taking piercings because they like the way it look.
Another prejudice is between different music genres. I myself prefer metal and actuallly some people are having a problem with it. There is always that great fight between hip hop/rnb and metal. According to me, it is really rediculous that people actually start a fight about such a silly thing such as music. If someone doesn't like your typ of music, sure let them listen to worse music (according to you), but don't discriminate them for that!
I love this song, are you going to look at me different for that? :P
If I start with piercings. I 6 piercings.
4 on that ear, one on the other ear, one in my nose and another one im not very keen to show.
A couple of days ago I overheard a conversation between some girls in my class and one of them wanted a piercing in her nose but her parents didn't allow her since they thought that piercings only was for criminals and that her teachers perhaps would consider her as a less good student due to this piercing. And for some reason things like that really makes me mad. Piercings aren't a reflection of your intelligence. "Don't judge the book by its cover" I've been told plenty of times by elder people but yet are completely comfortable doing the exact thing!! They are judging people by their tattos or piercings.
I can understand why elder people are so against piercings and tattos. When they were young only criminals had piercings and tattos, but we live in a different kind of world today. People are today taking piercings because they like the way it look.
Another prejudice is between different music genres. I myself prefer metal and actuallly some people are having a problem with it. There is always that great fight between hip hop/rnb and metal. According to me, it is really rediculous that people actually start a fight about such a silly thing such as music. If someone doesn't like your typ of music, sure let them listen to worse music (according to you), but don't discriminate them for that!
I love this song, are you going to look at me different for that? :P
Greed
It's raining outside, probably my favorite weather.
But the thing I want and need to reflect on is a thing we brought up during psychology class today. There have been proven that the human mind works like this, we can not be satisfied with what we have. If you're completely satisfied with your salary and then hears from another person that he or she makes more than you do, then you won't be satisfied anymore. And if you think about it, it's quite true. We always work to achieve something. And once we've achieved it we plan out new things to work for.
For me, this actually sounds quite pathetic. I know that I work this way aswell, I'm definetly not implying that I'm better than anyone else but that almost everyone thinks this way. I want to bring up the shaolin monks here. They are buddists. And the whole buddist philosophy is that greed is a sort of torture. They are taught to not feel greed or to be in need of all these material things. And I can relate to them to some extent actually. Is the whole meaning for us to always work hard and never to relax and to be happy with the things we actually do have?
Think about it, have we ever been happy that we actually get to educate us, that we get free food everyday in school etc? I know my polish cousins they have to pay for their school material school lunch etc. And I've seen those prices. they are not nice! So maybe we should change our way of thinking. I don't say that we should be grateful for every little detailed, because we need to work for something but perhaps we should appreciate things MORE than we do now.
But the thing I want and need to reflect on is a thing we brought up during psychology class today. There have been proven that the human mind works like this, we can not be satisfied with what we have. If you're completely satisfied with your salary and then hears from another person that he or she makes more than you do, then you won't be satisfied anymore. And if you think about it, it's quite true. We always work to achieve something. And once we've achieved it we plan out new things to work for.
For me, this actually sounds quite pathetic. I know that I work this way aswell, I'm definetly not implying that I'm better than anyone else but that almost everyone thinks this way. I want to bring up the shaolin monks here. They are buddists. And the whole buddist philosophy is that greed is a sort of torture. They are taught to not feel greed or to be in need of all these material things. And I can relate to them to some extent actually. Is the whole meaning for us to always work hard and never to relax and to be happy with the things we actually do have?
Think about it, have we ever been happy that we actually get to educate us, that we get free food everyday in school etc? I know my polish cousins they have to pay for their school material school lunch etc. And I've seen those prices. they are not nice! So maybe we should change our way of thinking. I don't say that we should be grateful for every little detailed, because we need to work for something but perhaps we should appreciate things MORE than we do now.
Relaxing
This song represents my day!
Sunday, perhaps not the best day of the week but still better than monday! So, what have I done this lovely sunday? I haven't actually done anything of important manner. I have just been doing things that I like and that relaxes me such as playing computer games, listening to mucis very very loud and lying in bed speaking with my love.
I have been so busy this whole week, I have been taking retakes of the mocks, doing swedish essay, writing on my extended essay and some smaller homeworks aswell. So as you can see I've been quite occupied.Yesterday I was actually cleaning the whole day so this is probably the fisrt day I have allowed myself to relax completely. As weird as it might sound I am satisfied with having it this way, working really hard the whole week and then do nothing for a whole day.
28/8
Feelings
Why is it so difficult to share your feelings with someone? Am I the only one finding this a hard task to do?
We all have periods when we might not be that happy. Perhaps it feels as if nothing is changing as if your stuck in one place, or maybe you've been let down by someone. And when those times comes it can perhaps feel good to have someone to talk to and to just let everything out. But sometimes this can be a hard thing for me to do. I feel as if i waste that person's time or they arent that interested.
But i've come to realize one thing, they do care! Atlest my friends have proven that many times. But still, there's that little part in me saying "why are you telling them this, they don't want to hear you study for 6 hours yesterday".
I guess the thing Iwant to tell the ones that read my blog is that don't feel afraid to open yourself up and talk to people about various things. Because we all need to ventilate sometimes. And if you don't feel like you have anyone to talk to, you can mail me if you want :)
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small things
I'll continue on the same path as before, happiness :)
I came to realize today that im actually quite happy if I choose to focus on the right things. For example, school has begun. yay some people might say with irony. But for me it's quite OK to get back to school. Because this is hopefully my last year and then graduation! :D and that is a good thing, right?
Another positive reason is that now I can go to a cozy café with my friends and maybe enjoy the fact that we all did well on that difficult exam whilst it's raining outside.
Or another feeling that I love is the feeling you get when you're handing in that essay you worked SO hard with to your teacher. I assume most of you have sometime had that feeling.
I came across a site today which states those small things that make you happy or to just stop and smile to yourself. I selected some of these things:
I came to realize today that im actually quite happy if I choose to focus on the right things. For example, school has begun. yay some people might say with irony. But for me it's quite OK to get back to school. Because this is hopefully my last year and then graduation! :D and that is a good thing, right?
Another positive reason is that now I can go to a cozy café with my friends and maybe enjoy the fact that we all did well on that difficult exam whilst it's raining outside.
Or another feeling that I love is the feeling you get when you're handing in that essay you worked SO hard with to your teacher. I assume most of you have sometime had that feeling.
I came across a site today which states those small things that make you happy or to just stop and smile to yourself. I selected some of these things:
10/8
There are exactly as many special occasions in life as we choose to celebrate.
~Robert Brault
Happiness
Do you know what brings you joy?
Do you know what makes you smile?
Do you know what gives you that energy to fully live your life?
Maybe if we didn't focus on the negative parts in our life, we could enjoy the good parts more. And therefor become more happy. Because those bad moments happens to everyone. Trust me, you're not alone having a rough time. Perhaps you lost something you've been fighting really hard to get, or maybe you feel as if nothing is going your way at the moment.
But if we just spend some minutes to sit down and try to come up with some things that makes you smile or that makes you feel good, then we can focus on those things and hopefully forget the bad things. Because why spend time going around being miserable when you instead could enjoy the life you are given?
Although you should not chase happiness, trying to come up with different methods to become happy. Happiness is something that comes to you in different ways. And one thing that makes you happy might not be the same for another person. So what im trying to say is that each and every person has a way to find happiness, and that sometimes we might forget those ways or reasons.
20/3
Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day.
~ Unknown Author
fresh new start
As you may have noticed I have changed my design on the blog and this because I will focus on other things than I was planning on in the beginning. This because I have developed a certain intrest for girls and boys self esteem. What I want to do is to encourage youths to actually love themselves. So I wanted a fresh new start!
I will post tips on how to start loving you, examples on how wrong it can go, fun facts and maybe some wise words that will help you on your way.
There is one thing though I need you to do for me. If you that read my blog now could write your name and age in the comments that would be a great help for me. because then I could adjust my tips and examples to what you might be intrested in. Its maybe not that fun for a 35 year old to hear about teenage problems and vice-versa.
always
Am I the only one or every morning when you wake up and have a lot of time until you have to go to the bus you take it extra slow, maybe put on make up extra carefully or maybe you put on clothes really slow because you have time, right?
but then there is only 10 minutes until the bus arrives and you have to do everything super quick so you wont miss the bus. almost every morning this happens to me when I dont have to hurry. Snd still I never learn, I keep on taking it slow when having extra time. feels lovely to be me!
but then there is only 10 minutes until the bus arrives and you have to do everything super quick so you wont miss the bus. almost every morning this happens to me when I dont have to hurry. Snd still I never learn, I keep on taking it slow when having extra time. feels lovely to be me!
gain more energy
Sitting in school and studying for a chemistry exam we hae ve in a couple of days, and then when hearing a song on the radio I started thinking back on how my life was a year ago.
I was still in the IB program but my grade was very bad and I was really close to retake that year. you can say that I was tired on everything. scool, my friends, my hobbies- yeah everything. but finally i mad it and I could proced to IB1 (the second year in the IB program). during the summer I didnt nothing concidering school. and then I really mean NOTHING. I just took one day at the time. If i wanted to sleep to 12 o'clock i did that, if I wanted to go running I did that. I wasnt thinking about what I actually should be doing because I had nothing I SHOULD be doing.
The point of me telling you this is because I came to the conclusion that you have to take a break sometimes. since 8th grade I had been almost nothing but studying. I am not kidding! I was so focused on school. On my spare time I did not send time with friends :P I just read books.
in the beginning I thought it was fun and I got good grades. But studying so much made it boring after a while and thats when it started to get really bad.
But after taking that needed brake I was back on track and although I have to work twice as hard now to understand (without the background knowledge you got in the first year). but actually Im enjoying studying much again. But I have learned my lesson so now Im taking a break sometimes just doing what I enjoy doing.
For me it can be:
* spending time with my lovely animals
* going out for a run all by myself
* gathering my friends and just hang out :) 
no idea
i have really no idea what to write about! if you want you can comment on what you want my opinion on or what you want me to discuss :)
Piercings, a reflection of your intelligence?
One thing that really annoyes me is the people that think they know you, your intelligence and your personality based upon if you'r pierced or not.
I myself is really facinated by piercings. I have 3 piercings at the moment. one in the ear cartilage (first picture), one in the nose (second picture) and one little more private
the reason to why I am writing "at the moment" is because I want to have one or two more piercings. The thought that now arises in most of your minds is prejudices such as, "is she stupid?" or she "She is probably a weird person that will become a murderer" (maybe an exaggerated example but you get the point.)
And that's why I become annoyed. Because a piercing is not a way to measure your intelligence or anything else. piercing is a way to decorate your body or to just be fascinated by!
Piercings really fascinate me. I for instance thinks that cheek piercings are cool and beautiful
picture from google
I also think that industrial piercing are REALLY awesome and nice
picture from google
And I actually cant agree with those who are against people with piercings. Sure I respect that some people are not very fond of piercings but they dont have to judge people that are having piercings. Look at me for instance, I love piercings and can sit and what videos of people getting pierced, I have even pierced myself three times. And still Im a descent human being. I am not some crazy person that will go and murder someone.
The same thing goes for tattoos. You can't have prejudices about a person you haven't met based on his or her tattoos. But the thing about tattoos is that it is getting more popular so it is not so weird anymore if someone has a tattoo.
piercing aren't even hurting anyone else. It is your and you decide what to do with it.
I myself is really facinated by piercings. I have 3 piercings at the moment. one in the ear cartilage (first picture), one in the nose (second picture) and one little more private
the reason to why I am writing "at the moment" is because I want to have one or two more piercings. The thought that now arises in most of your minds is prejudices such as, "is she stupid?" or she "She is probably a weird person that will become a murderer" (maybe an exaggerated example but you get the point.)
And that's why I become annoyed. Because a piercing is not a way to measure your intelligence or anything else. piercing is a way to decorate your body or to just be fascinated by!
Piercings really fascinate me. I for instance thinks that cheek piercings are cool and beautiful
picture from googleI also think that industrial piercing are REALLY awesome and nice
picture from googleAnd I actually cant agree with those who are against people with piercings. Sure I respect that some people are not very fond of piercings but they dont have to judge people that are having piercings. Look at me for instance, I love piercings and can sit and what videos of people getting pierced, I have even pierced myself three times. And still Im a descent human being. I am not some crazy person that will go and murder someone.
The same thing goes for tattoos. You can't have prejudices about a person you haven't met based on his or her tattoos. But the thing about tattoos is that it is getting more popular so it is not so weird anymore if someone has a tattoo.
piercing aren't even hurting anyone else. It is your and you decide what to do with it.
Please read..
when I saw this video I became really pissed of and angry. Mostly because I once were like that. I always compared myself to everone else. I felt that if I didnt have the same things as them, I was in some kind of way worse. Just because I wasnt as thin as "the cool kids" I was worth nothing. I changed my personality totally for them to like me. I loved school and I felt that I was really smart. But then I got to know that it was not cool to like school and to be good and getting good grades. So what did I do? I started to skip school, to party etc. You might think that what does she know about terrible things? Or, she is probably just writing this because she needs to do this. And no, I havent had anorexi or I havent been beaten, but I believe the things I have experienced is in its own way terrible because I changed myself and my personality. I even literally HATED my body, my voice, muy behaviour- everything just because I wasnt as "them". And no, I am not writing this only to get some CAS hours. I'm writing this because I doesnt want people to feel ansd behave as I did. And I didnt even need to to this blog. I could have done something else as for example painting. So please, take my words to your heart and understand that I really mean everything I am writing.
think of if this way, why change because someone called you fat or ugly? even if you would loose 100 kg or make a plastic surgery they wouldn't begin to like you. Because it is not something wrong with you. It is something wrong with them because they have to make other people feel bad so that they can feel good. So as I see it, they are the only losers.
Sure Im not the skinniest person today either but I have learned to listen to what I want and not to let me be controlled by anyone else. I love myself today and I won't let anyone take that from me. I love my body, every curve and why shouldnt I? And the more you love yourself, the easier will it be for others to love you, your personality and your body.
And you might argue that you want to change but you dont have someone to talk to. BULLSHIT! I hurted someone I love very deeply (will not tell who it is because I want him/her to be anonymous since this is post is very much about me and my feelings). I even hated him/her so much. I dont think you can grasp how evil I were. I moved away but after sometime I missed him/her extremly much. the only thing I had to do was to make one call and I got picked up. And he/she still cant trust me today because of what I did but I can go to him/her with anything, from love problems to moneyproblem.
So please! understand how beautiful everyone of you are. beauty is not one thing, its not a model for how everyone should look. Beauty is when you accept yourself and love yourself, thats when you become beautiful to me. because then you show me that you are not affected by the media and that you are smarter than so many people who are starving themselves to become some sceletons.
